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X-FREN? : When your partners best friends with the EX
What a gwaan,
Let me start off by saying that how someone feels in this situation is highly based on context. As a result I’m going to tread lightly here as I have been on the hostile end of this situation. I have been that ex who is still best friends. Hell!! I get grief for just being the female friend. Now ladies… As much as i would like to take your sides with this I have to tell you, some of you are straight up tripping. Sometimes you act so jealous and so insecure that you make the man start to wonder what is it about this girl (the best friend) that he might be missing. Surely you cant be tripping for nothing.
Now Listen Mi!! I’m not saying that shady shit doesn’t happen , oh yes it does. And it’s only human to feel somewhat left out on the inside jokes, the knowing stares the deep stuff he/she might share with that ex. I mean no one wants to feel like a third wheel in their own relationship. BUT take it from someone who’s been that best friend… pissing me off is NOT the way to go. I’m not saying you should bow down and be afraid because frankly I’d never hold this over anyones head. However, I do believe that a new partner should respect the HISTORY. Should respect that its takes time to build trust and being with someone 3 -4 months cannot possible equate to a 4 yr relationship. So yes, there are going to be things that he’s more comfortable speaking to me about. What’s even funny is oftentimes he’s asking me for advice about you, so I reiterate pissing me off … not so smart an idea.
I do believe that if you start feeling like the little sister tagging along or if that ex is ALWAYS around then that is a discussion to take up with your man/woman and if things don’t change then there’s a deeper decision to be made. But for the love of God Please! Please! PLEASE! Do not attack the friend! the onus is on your man/woman to set those boundaries.
At the end of the day KNOW THIS they’re the EX that was the past and your are the NOW… Be rationale because You might just push and end up really taking her place.
Think About it…
Faith and Love,
Mamachell
