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Polygamy, Sister Wives & Sharing Love

Sister Wives Intro
Recently I’ve become hooked on this show “Sister Wives”. It comes on TLC and basically is a reality show about Kody Brown, his three wives and sixteen children. It chronicles how they live together, and also how they cope with sharing this one mate. To be fare the show goes deeper and show how family dynamics are juggled especially when living a life that is unconventional in society’s eyes. When I watched the first season I was taken aback. Ive said it before on this blog and I’ll say it again, I don’t share well with others. I too have been brought up to believe that a man has one wife, So my natural reaction was “Awe hell no these women have lost their minds”, I eve thought they might just be desperate. But the more I watched, the more my thought process began to change. Although I’m still not open to sharing I had to ask, is this so bad? Who decided that polygamy was such a wrong thing. I know back in the day child brides were prevalent and possibly the reason for the clamp down and shunning of the religious practice. But really if it’s four consenting adults “What’s the problem?. With the success of Big Love it is clear that there is curiosity and Sister Wive’s ratings are through the roof. It’s safe to say a good amount of people wanna know.
Listen ,Kody has been married to his wives for some 16, 17, 20 years. When he recently decided to take on a fourth wife they courted. Real life courting from the old days, it was probably what changed my mind. Here was this lady a divorcee with children and he courted her like they were teenagers. I tried finding a Bible verse that directly spoke out against polygamy (this means I googled it) and I only found that King Solomon had 700 wives & 300 concubines as was customary back then when making deals. In fact it was stated that only the Qu’ran say marry only one.
If we were to be honest a lot of you are in polygamist relationships. Oh, don’t act like you don’t know. Some of ya’ll are sister wives and brother husbands (yes I did). Husbands have a full on family outside and many wives condone it. How is that better? How can we judge? I don’t know meng. I’m seriously conflicted on this topic. I threw the polygamy question out on the twitterphere and found that many women said “Oh, it’s not for me but to each his own”. One follower brought up a good point that in this day and age especially our Diaspora with the shortage of eligible men there really is no choice but to accept it. Let that marinate. Basically polygamists might be on to something, there is a severe man shortage maybe this is the cure. I recently told a male friend that I want a man, his response was “ Chel, what are you going to do with a one whole a man for yourself?”. I had to laugh. Although it isn’t the way I’d go for a relationship I can’t seem to understand 1. Why it’s illegal 2. Why people shun it. Let me know what you think in this ever changing relationship world is sharing really caring?