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It’s raining here and I know I owe you all a written post for the longest time. As usual I was having a conversation with my friends last night while drinking. I might have lead the conversation but somehow we got around to talking about cougars.
Salutations *throws white rum*
We are going to need a drink for this one. I can remember clearly, receiving my first stranger friend request on Facebook. I promptly rejected. I can also remember my first Direct Message on Twitter, not because it was anything special but because it was some extremely thirsty man begging me my phone number. I can also recall tweeting ” I don’t do tweetharmony”. I have stuck to that thinking quite strongly until now.
The other day a random conversation got me thinking. We are on social media sites almost everyday of the week. We tell absolute strangers what we like to eat, where we like to hang out, songs selections, colour, movies, shows. We really give them a window into who we are and our world. I hear alot of people saying “its’s only Twitter” <- I Disagree. Twitter tells me a whole lot and Facebook. Now, this doesn’t say throw caution to the wind. I haven’t forgotten the Craiglist Killer 0_o. But What I am saying is I have met many “pretty awesome” people on social media who have become cool enough friends. Therefore, I no longer see anything wrong with dating someone you’ve met online. Now DO NOT GET ME WRONG, as is normal, many people take things to the extreme.
Men, please do not DM every female follower on Twitter for their number or Bberry PIN spark up a conversation. After you have developed a rapport over time, you can ask. In fact, the rules aren’t really that different in the virtual world as it is in the real. Females, some of you have totally given in to the lure of “anonymity” the web provides. But please know this, if you are a Twitter mattress or a Facebook ho <- We Know. I have had my experience with informal online dating “the thirsty messages, the unsolicited pics”. I decided to take it up a notch and take it to the formal online dating sites. I’ve only just begun so stay tuned for the adventures, I will update you soon.
**** Okay so I wrote the above Earlier this week. It is now February 3rd, 2011 and I’m ready to quit. What int he name of hardough bread is going on here?!?! First and foremost E-Harmony free trials do not allow you to VIEW any of your matches. You read correct. I cannot see who likes me. So I’ve developed my own strategy and resorted to choosing “cute names” I’m certain Dilbert, Wilbert & Humberto are really nice guys but that just not cutting it 0_o. Ive also grown weary of the spamming that is going on in my email from E-harmony. I mean, i’m flattered and all that I have so many matches BUT scrise, this is too much. Goodness o’ lunacy!!!
Anyways. I have been threatened by my friend Krystalle that If I do not finish this challenge and answer EVERY single question from each man she will kill me. Seeing as how I dont want to die a virgin (smile everyone) I shall go look at my bagillion emails.
Pray For me and Keep Tuned.
Faith & Love????
I recently put up this up on my facebook status…
As you can imagine, I basically opened a can of worms.
In some aspects it’s unfair to single this down to only Jamaican men , I’m sure each nationality has their own problem and some of what I am going to discuss can be applied universally. But I can only speak from my experience. As usual let me give you some background. In this dating scene Im notorious with my friends for Import/Export It seems I have almost always been in a long distance “relationship” of sorts. My friends will tell you it’s because I’m a commitment phobe and I deliberately put myself in those situations because I know they wont work. ( I plead the fifth)
What I will tell you is that recent events had me saying “ok, maybe they’re right. I’m going to give these local men a try” …. Oh lord. I have always been an advocate of “My Jamaican Guy” In some sort of hypocritical way I have always bigged them up even if I was dating them. After all the swagger is undeniable. So I enter this new but not so new realm of “dating” and I have to ask “What the hell have I been advocating?” In the words of Amy Winehouse “What Kind of Fuckery is this?”
There is absolutely zero appreciation. Who is training there motherfuckers? But let me first say it is not ALL Jamaican men. Dremaican you are exempt as probably one of the FEW Jamaican gentlemen I know exist. Okay back to my rant. Slowly but sure it came to my attention that it might be that Jamaican men have fallen out of love with me ( a Jamaican woman), that the men I wrote about in “Let’s hear if for my boys” might not exist anymore. I voiced my feelings to quite a broad spectrum of my male friends and they agreed that while I had a point NOT all Jamaican women were angels. They asked me “How can I be a man like my father, when no woman like my mother is out there?” This got me thinking. While I know i’m a good woman and have basically decided not to settle (reason number ONE I am single) have men lowered their standards because we have lowered ours? I’m not certain but I know that of all the nationalities that I have dated Jamaican men have treated met he worst. Yet still like a fool I keep coming back for my piece of unrequited love. Well I can honestly say that I am Jaded I no longer have any love to give and have taken the hint and im walking away farewell my Jamaican guy.
Faith & Love,
*waits to be crucified*
Once again I have been asked to be a guest writer on a fellow blogger’s site. As usual it is always my pleasure. today I stopped by for some Cinnamon Coffee and discussed why I’ve never dated outside my race.
Go Check it out and get your cup of –> Cinnamon Coffee