Hola!,
As promised here is the second part of What Men Want When Dating. I can’t say I disagree with any of these rules. Read and give your two cents, I wanna know what you agree with.
6. Learn to read to the signs, watch the questions/statements and trust your instincts:
I don’t subscribe to hard and fast sex timelines like waiting until a certain # of dates to kiss or even sleep with someone. Feel it out and when it feels natural and right just do it. Any guy who’s gonna judge u for giving it up too soon is an ***hole and you shudnt be dating him anyway. I mean shit, I like me why shouldn’t you?
That being said
“Its ok you can come inside me” is definately a phrase that has its specific comfort level that needs to be reached before u drop it. This goes double for dropping a deuce at our house.
7. Focus: unless you actually are bored and want to leave…get off your bbm/WhatsApp/Twitter…tweeting on a date is a good way to end it before it starts. A lot, if not all of the time the one thing that cements a woman as wife or GF material is conversation. We want a hot girl with some sense, insight and perspective. You know those dates where you both chat constantly, few, if any uncomfortable pauses and you are actually interested in each other’s answers? No? Oh, sorry…carry on to #8 then.
8.Head…once we’re intimate and the basic safety and equipment checks have been passed, this is standard. Everytime I meet someone who is irked by giving head I just laugh…you’re gonna lose ur man/woman like a set a car keys…”It was here a minute ago, where can they have gone”
And remember enthusiasm is at least as important as skill in this department.
9. Empty the gun :
I have a rule…”If u wake him up, u have to put him back to sleep” suck it, fuck it, jerk it off…but leave it happy and we’ll like u a lot more. That thing has a mind of its own and is dangerous when left loaded.
10. Listen to our WORDS…and look for follow up actions :
We ‘Real’ men tend to be very honest about intentions…if we just want sex without complications we’ll say we’re “not looking for anything serious right now” and if we are looking for a relationship (when is that though really?) Then We’ll be more interested in your life and probably introduce you to our friends…if you meet our kids then we really like you. When a guy asks u “How was your day” and actually listens to ur answer then u know u got him on the line.
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that just because we keep having sex that our relationship has gotten deeper or that you’re now our girlfriend.
…If the situation is gonna change we will let you know.
Note from Mamachel: Can I get a praise stomp for #10?! *Shankle dips*
-Urchin
@brandnewmachine
YES!!!!!! @ #10
So many women end up getting hurt when he told u from day 1 what he was (or wasn’t) looking for.
Ladies please read #10 more than once because men don’t usually say these things in specific words, so I really like the signs that @brandnewmachine gave as examples.
So, @brandnewmachine and Chelan, when’s the next article from a male perspective gonna be posted?
No pressure
Once again, I fully endorse these rules!
what u guys want me to blog about next? im open…ready!
Love the honesty and the humor! Not to mention the male perspective. Keep the good advice coming!!!
like my dear Italian friend Mikale said(in his italian accent)”farenittzi if u sleep with the gurrl 1time iz ok, if u sex her 2time ahh, still its ok, but after 3time u sex the gurrl ,iz no longer sex farenittzi, itz now RELATION capich”
Sex on the first date; im certainly open to it , but its not a MUST , truth be told if the attraction is such where it happens on the 1st date, id more than likely want her as a girlfriend instead of one i had to prove my worth to over time for sex; after all; the most precious thing a woman can give to a man is her sex/love and if she throws that at you from the get-go? then she MUST really be into you and thats worth everything. …Girls remember this! its..” AFTER ” a man has sex with you that he really starts to see who you actually are in full spectrum,”AFTER” not “BEFORE”. What actually happens before the sex, is, ahhhh , well lets just say….. “the pu**y is used kinda like a bargining tool to measure the dude’s intrest (they may even show it to you ,peek-a-boo u see it? sike! mabye even touch,or sniff it but “nope” cant have it !!!!!) some girls actually get away with doing that for months on end(several dates). So u see neither is really wrong or rite its really up to the women as to when that time is, wether now or later – go figure
if You barebacking a girl you might as well cum in her. AIDS worst than breading her! Safe sex people!