Editor’s Note: Hey It’s been quite some time since Bonnie has graced my humble blog with a post. I’m not complaining we all have matters of real life dealing with. I am also guilty of neglecting my readers. I hope you guys enjoy this post and give Bonnie some advice or encouragement. She seems to need it.
Here I am again Bonnie …..
I once had an ex boyfriend, tell me (while he was still my man) that the race is not for the swift but for those who can endure…. That saying has forever stuck with me , mind you it wasn’t till I met him that I understood the full meaning of long rope to hang your self either but I digress…
How much can you endure if you don’t even know the outcome.Do we ever really know the outcome? Or just the probability that this is what we will receive?
After all the work (and make no mistake having a man is work and fuck anybody that tell you it shouldn’t be work) go ask your friends in relationships for 10+ even 5+years, the work and sacrifice and giving of yourself and putting someone else’s needs before you even when you vex and tell me if that’s not work .
But what can you endure? Can you endure cheating? Known cheating? Do you make up your mind to simply outlast the other girl or guy? Cause some of you men need to admit that unu play matey role just like us women. I have heard of women who stayed on the side for almost ten years before “dem get the forward” , in some cases even 20+ years but what can you endure?
Constant late nights away from home, while he genuinely works to provide? Because even a palace can be a prison sometimes …..
You would be surprised how much endurance goes into those people celebrating 30 and 40+ year wedding anniversaries, and you sit there at the party and wish for a love like theirs because he happens to caress her face and tell the world how much she means to him, chances are that’s the first time she’s heard it in years.
Anyway just some thoughts as you can tell I am at the end or close enough to the end of my own rope this is the trouble with being single for so long eventually it’s all you know or choose to know.
Bonnie
