Toes will be stepped on! I’m going to talk about wanting the past and the Dangers of looking back. Read after the jump
I’ve had this post chilling in my draft section for months now. When I say months I mean since last year *shame face*. I started writing it after I realized a pattern of exes hitting me up on Blackberry and such trying to get back in the game. Now I have no disillusions, they probably where just trying to get back the goods sans relationship but It got me singing in my head “wanty wanty”. I am sure I am not alone, men are included also with an ex or maybe more than one who did you foul or left for “greener pastures” and now want to cry you a river. Conversations can follow a similar template “Hey saw you on facebook the other day, you’re looking well these days” , Me: There’s No these days, Ive always looked well. Ex: “Well you look extra nice, got me reminiscing” (this is where I let out the Spartacus scream in my head and type) , Me: So how is *insert name* how are you guys? , Ex: Boy, not to well *insert litany of complaints* Me: That’s unfortunate, I have to rush do something let’s talk later. This conversation can also be had with an individual who has been stringing you along for ages and now suspects you have found a significant other *edit accordingly*
SIDE EYE FI ALL A YOU!!!
Yes, I have to leave the conversation. I see where it is going,most times the person on the other end of that conversation is rolling their eyes and waiting on you to come out with it. Some may stay in the conversation and toy with you in a “well yeah I never used to do that” sort of way. I leave the conversation because in truth, I really no longer care. You had me, you left me, I am not now your counsellor. Come on, let’s be honest here, which ex (who has fully moved on) cares that she doesn’t bake the chicken the same way that I used to or that she searches your phone and I would NEVER do that. Men, do you care that he doesn’t wash the care every Sunday like how you used to? The honest answer is NOPE, maybe on some level to solidified that you are indeed a catch and your ex was stupid to leave you for someone else. But in the reality you didn’t need an ex to tell you that did you?
Some people call it bitter, I beg to differ. I simply believe that when you move on to someone else there should be no looking back. This constant practice of wanting what you have and had is the quintessential “Having your cake and eating it to”. Especially if you left one person for the other. There is NO coming back and complaining. If you made a bad decision MAN UP but don’t expect me to, but for the most part if you Miss Me, Miss me(wid all dat bullshit). Don’t expect me to nurse my heartache then turn around and be your Doctor Phil.I also feel it opens up so much room for shadiness when you discuss a current flame with an ex or vice versa. Suppose words are exchanged and the ex uses information passed along by YOU to throw in the current flames face. HOW do you explain how she knows that girlfriend burned the macaroni? So many things can go wrong, then you hold your head in your hand and say “I don’t know how this happened”. Yes you do.
There’s always an exception to the rule, someone you cared for deeply but most times all I’ll be singing is wanty wanty.
Faith & Love,