Mamachel’s Note: Hey Guys can you imagine how happy I was to get an email notification only to see that it was from Bonnie?! I know we left off with uncertainty as to whether she would be back or not and it seems that she is. I love this topic that she covers, if you’re single then you’ve probably experienced it. Read on …
Do I scare you ?
When I say the word S – I – N – G- L – E what exactly does it do to you, to cause you to either pass judgement, enter full panic mode, or the need to provide some reassuring statement of hope.
I am not sick, its not catching (despite what your man tells you about hanging with your single friends) so why does it scare you??
Why is the explanation of my single status so important? So what if I eat alone at restaurants, or go on trips by myself or the movies by myself. Or the disbelief that yes I will be spending a lazy Sunday at home alone, no man, no nutten. Am I to wait until I have a man to enjoy anything? If me hungry and my friends unavailable why am I relegated to take out?
Why am I constantly being told to speak it into existence?! Or being asked what’s wrong with me? Or being looked at funny , or on the other hand even worse, all my invitations come sans plus one , so what you’re saying is I am single , which you don’t understand ,but since I am in your opinion single by choice then I wouldn’t have anyone to take to a dinner party ? O ok cool.
Every single time I feel the need for a relationship I spend time around couples and I swear that solves any yearning I may have , it is the official cure, its like when you want a baby really bad and babysit two year old triplets.
Let me tell you what I am speaking into existence, the end of every single cent of self inflicted debt that I have caused upon myself. Love, while it is on my list of things in all fairness is way way down. I did a prayer list this morning, Love is about #15 on the list of things I need the Lord to grant favour for, and technically “couple type” love is like 15d,behind parents, family and repairing old friendships .
What I would like to know is what would make you feel better? Since a simple “ I’m single” is not enough ..should I say I’m single but enuh I go out every weekend to bars, museums, festivals, sporting events and clubs to ensure that I meet the target at their every touch point? With my target market being male, A/B Socio economic group, over 5’10”, no kids, no divorces, corporate job or owns his own business, drives a sports car but is open to an SUV for when we have kids?
Except that you know, how I know that wont work, because the minute you ask single people what they’re looking for and they start to tell you , the response is : “ You see that’s why you’re single , you’re too picky , “you want all of that from one man “ OR THE BEST ONE EVER …YOU WANT ONE WHOLA MAN TO YOURSELF?!!!
My Response: FUCK YES !!! I DESERVE a supportive man, a romantic, loving, appreciative and financially stable man, a family man; a God fearing man and a man that won’t let my children favour sawrboss from Wheel Warriors. It is also important that this man understands Bonnie doesn’t iron nor does she fold, nor will she EVER cook tripe and bean. And until I can find a man who either has those things or is actively looking to achieve those things with his partner then yea I will go right ahead and book that weekend get away, just my bullet & me *wink*
XOXO
Bonnie
Happy New Year Y’All
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I have to say I love this and it’s so true. Some people still use someone’s relationship status to define them. Went to a restaurant alone the other day, and the service was terrible (maybe because they cast me in a corner alone, so noone could see or serve me), as well as I was subjected to stares and whispers. Oh well. I’m happy.
De Nada.
Funny you should say that. I think I tweeted the other day that I went somewhere and the waitress was like ” would you like some water while you wait” and I had to let her know I wasn’t waiting on anyone. People just always assume. So i’m not surprised that Bonnie feels the same thing also
iDied at “man that won’t let her children favour sawrboss from Wheel Warriors”. Hilarity Ensues.